How can someone connect with people better? From small talk to a meaningful/fun friendship? (see details)?

It seems like it really takes me a while to get to know people. I can be ';surface'; friends with them (this relationship not yet being deep, but more general). Then it takes a long time for me to make a deeper friendship (or one at all) with them.





So how can I make stronger connections with people right from the get-go?





A lot of times it's somewhat easy for me to make friends


but where does the conversation go from





';hey how are you?';


';how's life?';


';what are you up to?';





ya know?


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I feel like I have some sort of unconcious barrier that needs breaking in order for me to be able to enjoy conversing with them actually getting the relationship to go somewhere.





Help?How can someone connect with people better? From small talk to a meaningful/fun friendship? (see details)?
Eat some magic mushrooms together in a field on a clear warm night next to the ocean! You'll have stories that only the two of you can appreciate!How can someone connect with people better? From small talk to a meaningful/fun friendship? (see details)?
It really depends on the person. Some people have a very narrow comfort zone, so getting to know more about them can be VERY difficult. Some have a very wide comfort zone, so conversations, general discussions and so forth become easy, and making friends with them is a simple task because they are willing to share things rather than hold them back. What you can do is probably get them to talk a bit more, but try your best NOT to force them. If they don't like the topic, wait a bit. If they still don't like it, try another. Everyone is different.





Also, how do you interact with them? does your tone of voice, hobbies, general interests affect their response? Some people may have very different views compared to you and that also may affect relationships. A person who you share very similar views is someone who you can have a strong bond with because your opinions both make each other happy, seeing that there isn't really any ';opposing side';.





And also...some people just have had a bad past maybe. They probably want to avoid friendships because they may be afraid of betrayal, lack of communication in the future, and a few other things.

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