How do two different people connect?

My boyfriend of 7 years and I have a hard time connecting. We seem to have similar personalities, and we're both intellectual, but our interests are so different!





We're both quiet/easygoing but he is addicted to watching science fiction, military history, and playing videogames while I love reading non-fiction social science books, watching sitcoms and dramas, and hate anything too racy or violent.





When he talks to me, I don't even understand what he's saying. He uses specialized words that I don't know and he doesn't even try to really get me to understand. I feel like he's trying to show off but he says he just assumes I should understand.





When I talk to him, I feel like he can't relate to anything I'm saying. I try to get him to understand by using logic or relating what I'm saying to his interests/experiences, but he doesn't usually catch on or see the connection. He has a hard time empathizing with people or seeing how things relate to him in general.





I've read The Five Languages of Love (by Gary Chapman) and it seems that I really need words of encouragement and he needs acts of service. He knows this and we've talked about it (and read other books as well) but it seems like he just doesn't get it!





I want to marry him but sometimes after talking to him, I feel terrible because our conversations plainly SUCK.





What can we do? Please tell me your own experiences and those of people you know.





Thank you.How do two different people connect?
It isn't good being the same! It gets boring! You should look at the opportunity to share each others worlds and learn %26amp; teach one another. How do two different people connect?
Easy ,





Write down on a sheet of paper exactly what you want him to say to you and make him read it to you . Get him to repeat it until he gets the


voice , emotion ,and delivery right .





It's called TRAINING HIM !
If you haven't figured that out after 7 long years...then these marrieds can't help you either.





Just look at this bunch of marrieds!





Each one of these marrieds has its own individual curse regarding marriage.





Good luck finding your answer.
One thing a truly intellectual person appreciates is honesty. Just tell him that the ';nerdy'; talk is okay for the office and his co-workers, but your not to be used as his vocab ';practice'; partner. It's absolutely ok to be honest with your partner, especially if your thinking marriage.





By the way, I pretty much have the same taste as you, but being raised in a family of engineers I've had to experience the techie sci-fi side. Take the time to watch one of his shows with him, you'll be surprised how much drama is actually in one of those shows. And, he'll appreciate the time you get to spend together.
I've been married for a year and have a similar situation like you my husband does'nt talk much but i ask him to sit down and explain things to me in a way i can understand we started talking and now things are a lot better if you love him and he loves you both of you need to maybe try some ways to talk and take turns with things he likes and things you like


to do who knows you might learn to like the things he likes, we also have a 5 year age difference too. Hopes this shed some light Good luck!!!
You marry someone that you LOVE talking to and that you communicate well with. You are going to be talking to your husband more than anyone else in your lifetime, so you'd better marry someone that is good at it. He's either an arrogant prick who has zero respect for you, or he's an idiot. My question is this: If its been 7 years, why are you noticing this now? And why is there no commitment after such time? He really doesn't seem good for you by what you posted here. I would consider breaking out of this before you waste more of your life.