I find it hard to connect to people on an emotional level?

as a consequence of this i remain single, as all the girlfriends i've had have complained that i will never 'open up'





and i know that i will never really be able to open up to anyone, its just part of how i am, but it's also frustrating and at times exceedingly lonely.





is anyone else like this.? did you learn to open up %26amp; deal with that or did you stay as your nature is.?I find it hard to connect to people on an emotional level?
Years of therapy worked for me. But if youre relatively otherwise sane, try practising it. Just chat to old people on the bus (theres always one) and tell them stuff. Its ok cos they wont see you again. People in relationships want to be able to talk to you about stuff that matters, they want to know how you feel and so on. But you can practice it, and maybe one day it will come naturally.I find it hard to connect to people on an emotional level?
Before you can start to trust other people you need to identify with yourself and trust yourself to be you in others company, hence the reason you may not 'open' up to the exent that your past partners have wanted.





Please don't give up on yourself, you maybe need to explore your own feelings and identity more, if you are open and honest with yourself, you will become more able to be open with partners.





Good luck and dont beat yourself up about this xxx
I learned to close up. Don't feel lonely, a lot of us are like that. If you don't open up then you can never be vulnerable. Sure you'll be alone for the rest of your life but you will also never be hurt again. In the modern parlance it is a ';lifestyle choice';.
You will learn. You are probably still young. When you meet the right person you will be able to tell them anything. I am the opposite. I am very open. I hide nothing which sometimes can be my downfall too. But nobody is perfect.
i am the same way i learned to open up by just writing how i feel and then sharing it with someone if you want to talk you can always email me @mklinowski@yahoo.com i can try to help you
It seems to me that you just opened up quite nicely by asking this question. Perhaps you have not yet found the person who understands you well enough.
Its normal I'm going to guess it is one of two things you either have autistic tendencies and actually lack the ability to connect with others emotionally which is possible because my sister has that or you are like me and just don't trust people this could be sub-conscious or conscious lack of trust but either way it has the same outcome. But don't worry because you will find someone who you will want to open up to or just someone with a lot of patience its more likely you will open up to someone you have known for a long time so your best bet is to try to be Friends with girls you like and after some time try to date them. You'll be fine i know lots of shy guys who wouldn't open up and still manged to find girl freinds.
I have found that most people who say that they can't open up are really afraid to. Their self esteem is so low that they are afraid of what others will think about them when they truly are open to others. You will have to decide how important it is to you to have a special person in your life and whether it 's worth the work that it will take to change. You can change but you have to want to and you'll have to learn to trust that 98% of people just want to be treated with respect and kindness. Not like they are out to hurt you, which is why you're now afraid to open up. You might also want to find someone to talk to to help you figure out why you're so fearful of other's. Once you figure that out you'll be able to make the changes that you say that you want. It's not going to be easy or quick, it's become a life long habit and that will take a while to change.
I get that too, i think im scared of commitment...or getting my heart broken again.


Il end up very nearlly going out with guys...then nothing becomes of it, because il mess it up, il keep to cool, which i regret later. But never seem to change.


It takes me along time to trust %26amp; connect to people and i think some people just dont want to wait for answers.


Iv also had some bad experiences with guys that are pretty messed up, and become obsessive and violent. I think this also put me off, and hoping the dream guy would just turn up.








you need to find an open girl, whos like your best friend, and your girl. so you can open up comfortabally.





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i used to be like this, i still am really





but a great way of losing this 'shyness' is act drunk.


not violent drunk, or swaying drunk. i mean typical english drunk where you love everyone and you tell everyone exactly how you feel and so on.





just let go of any inhibitions, which is hard i know, but remember, it wont kill you, and maybe you'll learn from it.





it could be that when your past girls have opened up, they expects some kind of reaction. thats bloody difficult, because i mean, we're men. thats not an easy thing to comprehend or be able to do, but i find that just coming out with exactly how you nuderstood it helps..





it sonds like really psycho weird advise, but serious. - act drunk. people really open up when they are, and become quitesensitive and esay to talk to





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I know somebody who is (I think) like you. And I just wanted to say that in that person' s case the problem really isn't about fear.